How To Overcome Fear Of Rejection

Have you ever felt like your fear of rejection is holding you back from getting the sales you need in a business or finding the one relationship that completes you?

Overcoming this common fear could be the difference in success and failure for many different aspects of your life. This is why you must take the steps to delete this fear from your life.

Do not get me wrong though, the entire goal for you is to be okay with rejection, realizing it is part of life. Do not make the mistake of thinking you can just take certain steps and never get rejected again.

Rejection cannot be avoided. Most people will not close 100% of their business deals or get a date with 100% of the people they flirt with. It just doesn't happen. There is no perfection.

Therefore, if you can't avoid rejection, you just need to learn how to deal with it. You merely have to realize that you won't have success if you don't go through the failures and the rejections to find it.

Here's how to overcome this fear of rejection:

1. Realize That Rejection Cannot Be Avoided

Rejection cannot be avoided. Most people will not close 100% of their business deals or get a date with 100% of the people they flirt with. It just doesn't happen. There is no perfection.

Therefore, if you can't avoid rejection, you just need to learn how to deal with it. You merely have to realize that you won't have success if you don't go through the failures and the rejections to find it.

What do you think would happen if you tried your best to avoid rejection? Of course if you have a fear of this already, you know that the only way to avoid it is to not try to get in a relationship, close a business deal, etc.

Now, ask yourself what happens when you avoid anything that could lead to rejection. You never get any good results. Am I right? If you are to afraid of getting a “no”, then you will not take any chances. When you don't take any chances, you can never get a “yes”.

This is why that fear keeps you from meeting “the one” and having that amazing relationship. This is what will keep you from ever getting that big business deal. For every “yes”, there will be a few “nos”.

2. Understand That It Is A Numbers Game

One thing I've always been really amazed by is how things can be so easily predicted with numbers. Numbers just never lie, for the most part. Let's take a blog for instance.

For example, if you are trying to get $10,000 worth of product sales on your blog and it takes you roughly 100 visitors to get $10 worth of sales, then you can pretty much count on getting the sales you want from 100,000 visitors.

Marketingsherpa.com actually put together this chart on business website conversion rates:

Credit: http://www.marketingsherpa.com/article/chart/average-website-conversion-rates-industry

As you can see, the best of the businesses online get a 10% conversion rate of sales. This means for every “yes” they get rejected 9 times. Like I said… Rejection is unavoidable.

The numbers won't be exact, but they will almost always be very close, therefore predictable. Even though these are completely different people from different parts of the world, the numbers are pretty much always within a close range of each other.

That is how rejection is as well. For every business deal you close, you will probably get around 8 or 9 that won't work out if you're a decent or average closer. It is the law of averages.

For every girl or guy that gives their number to you, there might be 3 or 4 that won't. To get what you want, you have to go through the numbers game where rejection is inevitable.

Everyone deals with it, so don't feel like it is only you that does.

3. Notice How Everyone Has Had To Deal With It

Look at your parents. Did they have relationships with others before meeting each other? They probably did. Look at business. Has any company ever built an empire overnight?

Especially in business, you can study just about anyone and find that they struggled at first when they started out as young entrepreneurs. They had to overcome their fears to get where they are today.

Mark Cuban, the owner of the NBA's Dallas Mavericks, Investor on ABC's Shark Tank and multibillionaire, started out getting rejected day in and day out. He used to sell trash bags from door to door to save up money while trying work his way through school.

Look at Neil Patel, marketing expert, world class blogger and founder of many great internet businesses like Kissmetrics and Crazy Egg. He started out his business career selling vacuums door to door. You couldn't imagine how many times he got rejected.

Even Frank Kern, known as “president of the internet”, internet marketing guru and highly-demanded consultant started out selling credit card processing systems door to door.

Let me tell you something, door to door salesmen don't usually do too well as far as conversion percentages. People are annoyed by them and they get doors slammed in their faces all day long.

I doubt you're doing door to door sales, but it is the same way in anything. For every few rejections, you will get a success. But, you won't have one without the other. No one else has, so don't expect to be the first.

4. Don't Take It Personally

No one will be liked by everyone. No one will be understood by everyone. This goes for you too my friend, as well as myself. Too many people worry too much about what others think.

One opinion by someone else does not define you. A few “no's” don't mean you aren't good enough. It just means you are dealing with what everyone deals with. Your self-esteem and evaluation of yourself should be how you see yourself, not how others see you.

We are all different from each other and unique in our own ways. We all deal with rejection on a regular basis in some shape or form. It isn't personal, it is just another day at the office.

Don't get so emotionally involved in what someone's answer is to whatever your proposal is, especially in business. Know that if you stay persistent and keep correcting course along the way, things will always work out.

5. Have A Short Term Memory

If you are a sports fan, you should know that the best athletes keep doing what they do best, regardless of what happened throughout the game.

If a quarterback throws an interception, does he throw a fit like a 2 year old and quit playing? No, he goes right back to work and does his best to make up for it. He keeps doing his job.

If a star basketball player misses a shot, does he pout around and stop shooting the rest of the game? No, he keeps doing his job, knowing that his preparation and persistence will pull through for him.

That's is how you have to be. Be prepared and be persistent. The results will come, I promise.

 6. Work On Your Mental Toughness

Fear isn't real. Fear is something we make up in our head when we think too much about what negative things could happen in the future. Mental toughness will allow you to be fearless.

It will help you overcome just about any obstacle in life because most of things that hold us back actually occur in our own head. Here's an article on getting mentally tough.

Conclusion

Rejection is part of life. There is no reason to fear it. The greatest achievers in history all dealt with a massive amount of rejection, but it didn't stop them. What would be better… Keeping yourself from ever having great relationships or business ventures and avoiding rejection or overcoming your fear of rejection and thriving?